Is Marriage a Partnership or a Purchase? For too long, we have hidden behind "tradition" to justify the high cost of marriage and the scary culture of Eri. It is time to speak the truth.
1. Why the "Marriage List" is Hurting Us
Our young men are being shamed as "boys" just because they cannot afford a ₦1 Million list. This forces couples into cohabitation without protection. We are draining the savings of our children before they even start their lives together!
2. The "Eri" Double Standard
In some communities, and across Isoko Land, we have a system where the woman faces "spiritual arrest" or death for infidelity, while the man faces nothing. If the ancestors are just, why is the punishment only for the woman? This is not tradition; it is spiritual inequality.
3. Our Daughters are NOT for Sale
When we demand a heavy Bride Price, we tell the husband he has "bought" an asset. This mindset fuels domestic abuse. A woman is a partner, not property!
⚖️ THE PROPOSAL: THE "PRICELESS" ISOKO UNION
We are calling on the IDU and our Traditional Rulers to:
- CAP THE PRICE: Make the Bride Price symbolic (e.g., ₦1,000 only).
- REPLACE THE LIST: Move from "Requirements" to a "Mutual Gift Exchange".
- STOP THE SPIRITUAL TERROR: Abolish the one-sided Eri binding. Let moral accountability be for both husband and wife.
- RESPECT THE MAN: A man who stays with his wife and cares for his children is a HUSBAND, whether he paid a million naira or not!
Mothers, Sisters, Brothers, and Fathers: Do we want a culture of FEAR or a culture of LOVE?
Let us protect our daughters. Let us empower our sons. Let us make Isoko marriage Priceless again.
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